LIFESTYLE: 6 Habits You Should Learn Before You Get Married

Marriage is a very big step for any couple. Just like
any serious undertaking, you must prepare for
marriage before you go into it. Below are a few
attributes that you must have if you’re to succeed
in marriage:
Patience
One of the key qualities that every partner in a
marriage must have is patience. No two human
beings can have a productive relationship without
disagreements. It will not always be rosy and your
patience with each other will keep you from hurting
each other and going to the extreme when you’re
angry. Also, children are bound to rub you the
wrong way so you have to prepare yourself for
provocation and figure out how to handle it when it
comes.
Proper Communication Skills
To succeed in a marriage, you must learn the art of
communication. You must be diplomatic and
cautious and learn to pass your message across
without being aggressive and aggravating your
partner unnecessarily. You must be able to read
between the lines of your partner’s words and know
when they want to talk and when they just want to
be left alone.
Selflessness
The act of marriage requires you to be selfless. You
must learn to put your partner and the family you
build together above your own desires. It means
that sometimes you’ll want to buy a new gold watch
but you’ll decide to buy your child a toy instead. It
means that you’ll buy a cheaper car just so your
husband can indulge his designer suit fantasies.
Being married requires you to be selfless.
Cooking
This is not just for the woman. It is very necessary
for both partners to know how to cook. A family
must be fed and the wife may not always be
available. What happens if the wife goes on a
business trip or if she just had a baby and daddy is
left with the older children? Nobody is saying you
should enrol in culinary school but basic cooking
skills are necessary.
Self-control
A person who will make a good spouse must have a
lot of self-control. Sometimes you will get so angry
that you want to shout and slap somebody but you
have to be able to keep yourself in check. Your
husband will annoy you, your wife will upset you
and your kids might decide to be little terrors now
and then. You have to be able to stay calm and
handle the matter with maturity.
Resilience
The journey of marriage is not for the faint
hearted. It requires a lot of work and
determination. Sometimes as a woman, you might
be in pain for one reason or the other, yet you have
to find the strength to cook for your family, prepare
your children for school etc. As a man, you might
have had a hard day at work and you just want to
lie on your bed and go to sleep, yet you have to fix
things when you get home and do some work here
and there. Being successful in marriage requires
resilience and strength.