Top 10: Reasons Women Cheat

Number 10

Not enough sex

Remember the good old days
when you could stay up forever fooling around? Then responsibility
entered the mix — and kids — and before you knew it, sleep was more
important than sex. Well, women want to feel wanted. If you’re not
making her feel that way, she could seek it elsewhere. To keep that
spark alive, ask her out on date nights, send her provocative e-mails at
lunch, and by all means, don’t let life get in the way of kissing,
cuddling and sex.

Number 9

Being the bad girl

Just
as men feel the urge to sow their wild oats, some women have an inner
sex kitten just waiting to be unleashed — and when the beast escapes
from the cage, look out. This frisky behaviour
usually rears its ugly head in response to some sort of life change —
major weight loss, new job, new friends, mid-life crisis, etc. Keep the
lines of communication open and she’ll be more likely to talk to you
about what’s going on instead of spilling her guts to a stranger in the
night.

Number 8

Self-esteem

Sex can be an instant pick-me-up; a self-esteem booster
that makes women feel sexier, more beautiful and more loved. If your
wife or girlfriend has self-esteem issues, it doesn’t mean she’s
automatically going to cheat — and it’s certainly not your fault if she
does — but there are ways to make her feel secure in the relationship
that could help her from straying. Pay attention to her, ask her
questions and don’t hold back on compliments — a little flattery goes a
long way with women.

Number 7

Revenge/payback for past wrongs

No, you didn’t cheat, but whether you blew your retirement fund in Vegas or got caught in a big lie,
you did break her trust (and, possibly, her heart). She feels wounded
and betrayed — and wants to hurt you the same way you hurt her. To
regain her trust, it’s not enough just to tell her you’re sorry; you
have to show her. Actions speak louder than words.

Number 6

Lack of intimacy

You have it all: the house, the two-car garage and the two-and-a-half
bathrooms — at least on the outside. But inside, the relationship is
lacking the one thing women want most: intimacy. It’s not just sex that
makes women feel connected in a relationship; it’s touching, kissing,
cuddling, and communicating. Women crave it, and she could seek it
elsewhere if she’s not getting it at home. To improve intimacy, spend
quality time together, give her a foot massage, make a romantic dinner
for two — anything that will give her a sense of unity and closeness.

Number 5

Feeling neglected/ignored/under appreciated

Women wear many hats in a relationship — housekeeper, errand-runner,
grocery shopper, babysitter, etc. When she feels more like a maid than a
girlfriend/wife, that’s when she could stray. The fact that you spend
all your time at work or on the golf course gives her double reason to seek attention elsewhere. No, you can’t quit your job, but you can thank her for all her selfless deeds — and do your share around the house.

Number 4

Your emotional withdrawal

Women are emotional beings. Not only do they need physical support, but
they also need emotional support. Once you retreat from the
relationship, she sees it as a sign that things are through — a breakup
is inevitable. So, she’s not really cheating, she’s moving on. To avoid
this, be present in the relationship. Yes, that means sharing your icky
feelings, but it’s better than the alternative, right?

Number 3

Bedroom boredom

Sex can become monotonous if you let it — the same position; the same
setting; the same person. An affair adds adventure and gets her
adrenalin flowing. To avoid routine, avoid repetition. Sweep her away
for the weekend, make out at the movies, kiss her for no reason at
all... The unexpected adds excitement.

Number 2

Exit strategy

Instead of breaking up
with you, she cheats on you. That way she doesn’t have to deal with the
broken relationship, which is much harder to fix. An affair is the easy
way out — or at least that’s how she sees it. That’s another reason
communication is key. Let her know that she can talk to you about
anything and that you love her enough to work through any bumps in the
relationship road.

Number 1

Revenge for your cheating

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Because you cheated, she wants
to get back at you and give you a dose of your own medicine. Cheating is
her vengeance, her chance to even the playing field. No, you can’t undo
your indiscretion, but you can ask for her forgiveness, assure her it
will never happen again and suggest couples therapy to help you get through this tough time.

Her cheating heart

When you add up all the reasons women cheat, it’s usually her heart (or her ego) that needs healing, not her libido.
Keep the lines of communication open, be supportive and encouraging,
and work at keeping that spark ignited. In other words: Don’t give her a
reason to stray.