RELATIONSHIP: why you can't remain friends with your EX

The end of a relationship causes many conflicting
feelings to arise. It is common in some
circumstances for one person to say “Let’s be
friends”. Here are a few reasons why you shouldn’t
remain friends with an ex:
1. It causes misery.
This is somebody you were once in love with. That
thought will always remain in your head. If you
decide to hang out as friends, it will most likely
make you remember the old times, when you were
happy and always laughing together, all the good
times you shared. This will just make you more and
more miserable because the person is not yours to
love anymore
2. It gives false hope.
Trying to be friends with your ex will raise up false
hope. Even if not for you, then most likely for your
ex. It will make one person believe that maybe the
feelings can be resurrected again and if this doesn’t
happen, it will be like adding salt to injury.
3. It doesn’t change anything.
You’ve had feelings for this person. You can’t just
make them disappear. You never really get over
your ex. They never go back to being like every
regular person to you. You just get around them
because you know that you have to continue living
your life.
4. It keeps you from releasing them.
Even if you broke up with your ex, if they started
dating again the next day, you’d, most likely, feel
bad. This is because a part of you wants to feel like
they’ll never find anyone else like you. To have a
real friendship with your ex, you must want them
to find someone else and this is not usually the
case.
5. It can keep you from finding love again
Being friends with your ex makes it difficult for you
to move on. This makes you lose many
opportunities to meet new people and find love
again. The “friendship” you have with them might
also make you feel that finding someone else is a
betrayal.
6. It’s unhealthy.
It’s very unhealthy to be friends with your ex. If
they broke up with you then you could be nursing
feelings of resentment and anger against them
while trying to be a friend. If you broke up you’re
your ex, then hanging out with them makes you feel
guilty. Either way, it’s unhealthy for both of you.
There’s nothing wrong with telling an ex who offers
friendship that you can’t do it. It’s not immature or
selfish. In fact, it’s the best way to safeguard your
interests and give your broken heart time to heal.
So what do you think? Is it wise to be friends with
your ex? Let us know your opinions in the comment
box.